Is Your Inner Child In The Driver Seat?
When you are triggered, typically the reason you are trigger is because your inner child is driving.
The inner child has deep rooted memories embedded in your emotional body at a cellular level. It remembers times that were real threats to its survival and uses them in real time to “survive”.
So when you get triggered those memories are pulled up.
For instance, your partner bringing up something that is upsetting them can feel very threatening and triggering if you as a child were criticized and blamed for things that were out of your control.
This is just one simple example.
Some important things to remember when this happens is
Give yourself GRACE
Hold deep Compassion for the part of you that is triggered
Observe and notice that you are being triggered
Express and share (if you are in a safe space to)
Connect with your body to bring you into the present moment
One way to help strengthen the muscle of the part of you that is empowered and observing during triggers is to practice!